Learning how to think is more important than what to think | Secret Podcast

We need to learn how to think, not what to think. So many teachings out there that tell you what to think. They tell you right from wrong. If you behave in this way, you’re right, and if you behave in that way, you’re wrong. This is a very limiting approach, and it doesn’t allow for differences of opinion or perspectives. It doesn’t allow you to accept me for who I am, and I can’t accept you for who you are without somehow diminishing my truth. It’s too rigid.


The reason it’s so hard is that we are stuck in duality. It means as soon as I agree with your way of thinking, my own thinking must be wrong. We never learned that it’s possible for both of us to be right. Even worse, we never learned to be respectful of our differences, but attack and convince each other to line up with one way of thinking. Yours or mine, and if we can’t agree we must separate or no longer hang out in each other’s atmosphere.


Of course, there is always a line that can’t be crossed. I call them: “Deal Breaker Boundaries.” Definitive statements that leave you no choice but to break away from a certain person or situation. But there is a lot of stuff in between that isn’t clearly defined as a deal breaker and because we have not made it clear for ourselves what we will or will not accept, we make everything equally important. Now, any difference of opinion can cause an argument and/or break up.


There must be a better way to approach this otherwise we will constantly meet new people and within a certain period we will alienate ourselves from those people. It’s a vicious loop, and your only conclusion will be that you can’t get along with anybody or that everybody is insane because they can’t or won’t see the world through your eyes.


If we wish to have a more judgment free approach towards others and ourselves. We must first question our own thinking. We have to understand where we have learned certain beliefs and thoughts and make sure if they still apply to us today as adults. Some beliefs may have served us in the past as children, but now we need to release and upgrade to thoughts that serve us better as adults.

When you examine your thoughts, you will realize most of them were taught to you. We are conditioned: “What to think.” And if you want to move forward in this world, and make quantum leaps into a direction that nobody has ever gone before, then you can’t stick to this old method. This old framework puts you in a box and just because a large group of people decided this box is the good one, doesn’t mean it’s right.


When you remove yourself from this right or wrong thinking and open yourself up to a more 360 degrees view. It will open your third eye. You will hear your inner guidance talk to you and go deeper into your inner world. You will learn about fabulous new ideas and ways of expressing yourself. Even if the world doesn’t agree with you, it will feel so amazing. You won’t allow the world to dictate to you anymore what to think. Your alignment with your Soul will feel so expansive, open and good, you no longer care about being right. Once you feel happiness, you understand that “being right,” has no more power. You will allow the world to judge you and give up this idea of always having to agree with others, but just let them have their own opinion. You will stop fighting. You will stop convincing them of your view. You will stop talking all together.


When you become still, that’s when you tap into your own creative ideas and become the full expression of self. Your drive will be powered by your Soul, and it will fuel you with infinite life force energy to just keep going, even if no one agrees with you. You’ll express the fullness of your heart and if someone lines up great, but if they don’t great, because for you it’s about the expression and no longer if it’s right.


Now, you’ve turned on your intrinsic motivation. And intrinsic motivation lasts so much longer than extrinsic motivation because extrinsic motivation is when you want to impress “them.” The collective unconscious told you that this is the right thing to do for them. And so you’re constantly seeking approval and validation from the outside world to say: “Good job.”


But when you learn how to think for yourself. You’re no longer interested in the approval of the outside world. You’re only interested in making sure that what you express is in alignment with your soul. In the long term, this is going to pay off because consistency is key. In order to win the game of life, you have to be consistent. But in order to be consistent, you need something more powerful than extrinsic motivation. Something that keeps you going no matter what.


In this world of short attention span, and people dropping their goals by just a slight breeze of resistance. You will be at an advantage if you simply won’t give up. Most people will drop their goals as soon as others oppose them or don’t show them any validation for their work, but that means they did the work from the intellect and not from their heart. It was something that they did in order to be seen in a certain way. Even though it was a creative undertaking of the expression of self. They still allowed the world to control them because the moment the world doesn't believe in their brilliance, they stop reaching for the stars.


Fabulous One Philosophy will help you stay in alignment with your Higher Self so you don’t fall prey to empty words to dim your light. You are the superstar of your story. You don’t have to conform to society’s idea of fabulousness, but create your own. You will learn how to think, not what to think, so you can stay consistent in your own creative endeavors, no matter how the outside world responds.

If you have lived long enough, meaning 30+ years, you should have observed by now that the world is very unstable. People are finicky, moody and change their mind all the time. One moment you are fabulous and the next moment you are fake in their eyes.


Why subject yourself to their emotional instability?


As long as you behave in a way that’s acceptable to them, they will allow you to be fabulous. As soon as you behave outside of their box, you will be the bad guy. One day they will love you, the next day they will hate you and you’re going to readjust who you are to the fluctuations of the emotional mood of the masses. There is no winning this game. It is what it is. Accept it. You can’t change other people, you can only change yourself.


The masses are conditioned on what to think. Forgive them because they don’t know. Awareness is key and most of them aren’t. And spending all your time and energy trying to make them aware is a waste of time. You need to focus on your own personal development and reach the stars.

Focus on yourself and where you are going. As mothers, we need to learn how to think. The world is always going to tell us: “We are bad moms. You’re not doing it right.” No matter what it is you’re doing, no matter what kind of mom you are. Someone always has an opinion about it, isn’t it?

Stay at home mom, working mom, mompreneur, there is always someone against you. The world is on an emotional roller coaster called duality. It’s time you go off this ride. It’s insane if you allow the world to keep spinning you on this duality-infinity loop.


Just step off and watch them go round and round, but you stand still in the middle. Be your own woman, speak your truth, and walk at your own pace. Create your own path in this world.


That’s the adventure, the most exciting part of life. Forging your own way, doing something new. Why follow in the footsteps of others? When you can think for yourself, all you have to do is follow your own voice.


You are Fabulous One. All you have to do is remember what you forgot.


Listen to this episode on my public podcast: Click Here

Watch this video on YouTube: Click Here

Would you like to join my Online Self-Mastery School for Moms?


You will learn how to transform your Inner Saboteur into your Inner Strength, so you can awaken The Self-Master within and make each day your Masterpiece.

Register for free.


Inside my school, you will receive:

  1. Download Free 68 Pages of my Self-Mastery Study Guide (PDF). Learn about the 5 Stages of Self-Mastery and why Stage 5 is the hardest one and probably the reason why you can't reach enlightenment.

  2. A Masterclass about the Fabulous One Fractal Selves, the four minds within that need to unite as one. The higher self is not who you think she is and in this masterclass you will find out what you need to do to become your Higher Self.

  3. Listen to my Secret Podcast for students only. This is a private podcast for those who are interested to deepen their knowledge and learn all the secrets of self-mastery so you can become unstoppable.

  4. Stay informed about news, blog posts, podcast episodes and new masterclasses.

  5. Be part of the Fabulous One Family, a community of moms who all want to become Masters.

Can't wait to meet you and guide you on your journey of becoming the Higher Self. I'll see you inside! Sign Up Here


Interested to buy the Self-Mastery Study Guide for Moms

For more details - Click Here

About Me:

Hi, I am Jeanice, founder, teacher and author of Fabulous One Philosophy. Born in South America, raised in The Netherlands. Fell in love with an American and flew around the world to live our lives together. We ended up in Abu Dhabi, UAE and I became a successful model but that all came to a halt in 2010. I became a mother and I was no longer the same. My world had changed and it was the catalyst to my spiritual awakening. I realized it was a great opportunity to sit still and dive deep. It was the first time in my life I asked myself: "Who am I?" Little did I know that question took me all the way down the rabbit hole, and I became a seeker for many years until I had my spiritual awakening. Excited about my experience, I decided to write it all down to share my newfound wisdom and created a self-mastery system, so I can help other mothers become The Awakened Mom. So, you can live your life in peace and harmony and no longer suffer the opinions of the world and set yourself free. If you are interested in transforming your Inner Saboteur into your greatest power, but you don't know how and you would like some help? Join My Self-Mastery School

If you are interested to transform your Inner Saboteur into your greatest power, but you don't know how and you would like some help?


Follow me on YouTube: Click Here


Love, Jeanice