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This is why you feel stuck in the matrix

Updated: Dec 14, 2023

We trapped the mind, in a mind of her own making. You know the saying: “Think outside the box.” Yeah, it’s not possible. Think about it. We are all One. A unified whole. There is no separation, but the one we create in our mind. Escape the matrix.

If you want to think outside the box, it implies you are not part of the box, separate from the box, and you see that is a bit tricky because you are the box. You can’t separate yourself from yourself. So, what do they mean when they say: “Think outside the box?”

The only thing that you can do is expand your level of consciousness. Expand the box. You don’t need to escape the box. Why would you want to? We hear it all the time, right? Escape the Matrix.

In my Self-Mastery Study Guide, I call it The Human Matrix because we humans have created it. There are three boxes or matrices. You can use these two words, "box or matrix," interchangeably.

1. The Universal Matrix

2. The Human Matrix

3. The You-Matrix.

The You-Matrix is our individual box. Each one of us has a unique perspective on how we see the world. And through the lens of this personal box, we create our reality. Right now, this You-Matrix is old and outdated. It’s not serving us and is the cause of our suffering. Our You-Matrix is in control of our thoughts and our behavior. Right now, this framework does not allow for expansion beyond The Human Matrix. It's like an invisible mental ceiling. Carl Jung calls it “The Collective Unconscious.” It’s humanity’s group mind, a field we can all tap into and access everything that is known to us.

The Human Matrix isn’t a small little box. There's already so much known in The Human Matrix. It will take you 1000x lifetimes in order to know what the entire world knows. Throughout the years, we have blamed The Collective Unconscious for all our suffering. If it weren’t for The Collective Unconscious, we would all live in light, peace, and joy.

I don’t think so. People who speak in terms of consciousness or unconsciousness as a measuring stick to decide if something is right or wrong are just as “asleep” as people who don't know what we're talking about. We have condemned The Collective Unconscious. Made it a terrible place to be or be part of. So which group do you belong to? The group mind that is wrong, the unconscious, or the group mind that is right, the conscious. See?

Somehow it doesn’t feel right, does it? Instinctively, you feel there must be something missing.  Words create the distortion we seek to avoid. It is the words that create the separation. As soon as you think in terms of unconsciousness or consciousness, you split in two. You no longer see from the whole. Do we have to choose? Do you have to stand on one side of the fence? Hmmm. How can you stand on both sides of the fence? Those who can see through the eyes of oneness understand that The Collective Unconscious aka Human Matrix is not separate from us but part of us. So, we have to become one with it or transcend it. Even the word transcendence explains nothing. A better word is “expand.” We need to expand the box, make the box bigger. The You-Matrix, the little box or your little mind holds a limited amount of information. If we want to access more information, we need to make our box bigger.

So, visualize a little box. Can you see it in your mind? Now, make the box bigger with your mind. Expand it. Give yourself room inside the box. You have been cramping yourself in this tiny box and there has been no room for you to grow. No space to walk. No room to breathe. Expand your box, Fabulous One. You did not mean to squeeze yourself into a limited version of you. You are infinite.

What size box do you think holds all of you? Here is where the problem starts; “What do you mean, Jean, expand? We fixed this box in size. You can’t make it bigger. It will always be a small box, right?” No, that’s what we forgot...

We are a Quantum Box.

It means you can become form or formless whenever you say so.

You have permission to change whenever you want.

What is The Collective Unconscious, really?

What is The Human Matrix, really?

It’s all the information known inside The Conscious Universe. History of all times, all the way to the Big Bang stored in our collective group mind. In order to understand all the information in this field. You will need a 1000x lives, probably even more.

For example; Who do you want to be?

Think about that. Think about all the options you have right now, known to humanity, of who you can become;

You want to become a police officer?

You want to become a business owner?

You want to become a ballet dancer?

Whoever you decide to become The Collective Unconscious knows of its existence and has a path for it. All you have to do is research and study. Do the work.

Do you want to become a piano player? Study music.

Do you want to become a singer? Study voice.

Do you want to become an artist? Go to art school.

Do you want to become an actress? Study acting.

We know the other half as The Collective Consciousness. This is the half that is unknown to humanity inside The Conscious Universe. So, you have the known and unknown and you live in both. Both of them together form the largest box, I call; The Universal Matrix or The Conscious Universe. You can never escape it. You can never leave it. You will always be in it because you are it. This is what it means to be multidimensional. The Human Matrix is a dimension of many more dimensions inside The Conscious Universe. You can access each dimension because it is part of you. You feel confined and restricted by The Human Matrix because you allow it to define you or you can feel free and spacious in it because you define it.

That's why the masters say when you wake up, the first thing that you know is that you know "nothing." Not because you know nothing, but because you finally understand what "Infinity" means. You understand how infinitely small you are in this infinite conscious universe, and you’ll remember that you are The Conscious Universe at the same time. As above, so below.

You are the unlimited box. There is no way you know everything because that would mean you would know what Infinity is. Nobody knows that. We are nobody. When you understand in your heart, you are nobody. The funny part is, you’ll feel elated and energized by it, which sounds very counterintuitive, right? Like? I am nobody? Hmmmm alrightie, then?? I just found out I am nothing and you say, I am gonna be excited about it? Yes, it’s a whole new world, now. An adventure. You can go on the hero’s journey and open up to new experiences in life that you never thought possible and be the bringer of good news. Tell the people your stories.

The Collective Unconscious or Human Matrix does not imprison us. We have created our own mental prison. The You-Matrix made us forget who we really are and our ignorance made us point out The Collective Unconscious as the villain. The most important question is; Who is in charge of The You-Matrix? At the moment, it's our unconscious mind, and she is the one who constantly points at the bad girl, so she can remain the good girl. Our unconscious mind is tapped into The Human Matrix and she can pull up very terrifying memories, that don't even belong to you, to make you feel powerless. She uses The Human Matrix to justify your suffering. “They,” caused my pain, not me, I didn’t do this to myself. How could I? That’s cruel and unusual punishment. Whoever in their right mind would inflict so much hurt upon herself?

When you look at my drawing, the conscious mind who has blue hair, which is the fabulous self, she thinks she can escape The Human Matrix. It’s the unconscious mind, the one with pink hair, her name is the fake self who already knows this is futile. She's just shaking her head hahaha. The fabulous self is under the illusion that there is a place other than here, but there's nothing else. You can only be here, now. The fake self knows and she's the one who keeps you in this painful loop. She's sitting there like, oh my, this woman?! When will she ever learn? When will she ever realize she can't escape the box? We are the box. Only when the conscious mind is ready and willing to open her mind. When she stops judging her own unconsciousness, will she have a chance to end her suffering.

As long as the conscious mind believes she needs to escape.

As long as the conscious mind believes she is in jail.

As long as the conscious mind believes she's trapped.

She will be stuck in illusion and give herself fake wins to feel better. Only to realize later, you are still behind bars. You never left. If you want a deeper understanding about the universal-matrix, human-matrix and you-matrix, you will have to study, not escape. If you want to be free, you need to understand, not run away.

In my Self-Mastery Study Guide, I give you a thorough explanation about all the matrices and how to use them to your advantage. Sometimes, you have these “aha moments” when something clicks, right? When it really clicks! Suddenly, you can see, as if you see it for the first time. All this time, it was right there in your face, but you never saw it, until one day, it clicks and now, you see it for what it really is. You’ve changed your reality without changing yourself. Victory, you think?! I am free! Yessssss! You have never felt so bliss. “I have escaped the matrix,” you tell yourself. But then, slowly, the curtains close again. Your bright light dims until you find yourself back in jail.

That's why the fake self is shaking her head in my drawing. She knows you too well and as well what is about to happen next. It’s you, who always seem to forget, and you try to escape all over again. You are doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result (Einstein). Who is insane here? Lol. “Oh boy, here we go again,” says the fake self. Your fabulous self feels tormented and confused. Why does this keep happening to me? You fall into a deep sadness and try to pull yourself out by finding another way to escape. Never realizing you can’t escape yourself. You're still here. You never left. This feeling of finding yourself back in your own mental jail can create feelings of hopelessness. You don't understand. How did the curtain close on me, again? I thought I unlocked myself. How am I back in jail? What's going on?

That's when you have to go deeper. Superficial spirituality is a trap. You hear the bell ring, but don’t know where the door is? Chaos dominates your life because you have not demanded clarity from yourself. You allowed yourself to run in circles, like a boomerang, always ending up where you started. So, you got to do things differently. Confront yourself. Ask the fake self, who's sitting there shaking her head wondering when you're going to have the guts to come and confront her? When will you have the courage to ask her; "What's really going on?" The only way out is in. Sit with the fake self and have a talk. In the beginning, she’ll ignore you because she knows you. You can’t handle the truth.

Time and time again you have shown her you’re in denial. You just want to hear the soothing words, but sometimes all she has is sobering words. Words that take you out of your buzz. Words that will make you feel uncomfortable. Sometimes the inner saboteur has to give it to you straight, but she knows you better than anyone, so if she feels that you ain't ready to receive, she will not open up to you at all, because she is you, and she's protecting you from yourself. She will lie and lower your vibe before confessing the truth.

At some point, in your life, you have given instructions to the fake self to keep the truth hidden from you, no matter what you do, no matter what you ask, no matter how much you beg, no matter how much you plead, you have told her to keep this information away from you, and she's doing what you have told her to do. Your programming runs deep. You can’t just give a command. The ask has to come from your heart. Be sincere. Your desire to know has to come without strings attached. If you are after a certain result, your fake self will know. You can't just demand it; “Okay, just tell me, fess up, please.” No, your whole vibration needs to change. Be in the receptive mode otherwise, the information won’t land. It won’t open your eyes. It will make you feel afraid, instead.

When the fabulous self is not ready to receive, the opposite will happen. See, how she’s hanging outside of the cage in my drawing, so carefree. If she's not ready and hears what the fake self has to share with her. She’ll run back into the cage, lock the door, and throw the key back to the fake self and tell her to never ever ever ever give her the key ever again. That's the opposite effect from escaping the matrix! Now, you no longer want to come out of your cage. You fear your own freedom. The world is a scary place. Best to stay put and dim your light. How can you see beyond yourself without fear? How can you expand the box without losing your identity?

Change The You-Matrix. The lens or framework you see the world and yourself through. It’s time for a new framework that is up to date with the modern times we live in. A framework that can handle all the fake self has to say. A mental framework that holds space for Infinity. Your old programming keeps you small. You need to upgrade to a whole new system that helps you elevate. My Fabulous One Framework - Self-Mastery System is the New You-Matrix that shows you how to expand your box to the size of The Conscious Universe.

The Fabulous One Framework teaches you how to set yourself free, navigate your multi-dimensional nature, expand to the infinite, and back to the finite within a blink of an eye. A mental framework that helps you to face the unknown and make it your own so you are free to create the life you want. You’ll no longer fear the judgment of The Collective Unconscious because you understand who you are.



The Master's Mental Model replaces your old framework and gives you a new one where you can veto the inner saboteur's input whenever she decides to show up and leave her two cents. In the Master's Program, you will learn how to detach from the collective group mind (6D)and restore the connection to your Soul Mind (5D). Once you've activated your soul realignment, you can call upon your inner soul's guidance without the interference of the shadow self. The Fabulous One Framework® is a new lens of perception that empowers you to believe in yourself and see a world full of possibilities. For more information please click the button to watch the explainer video.



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