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Unite the dancer and the dance

Updated: Dec 14, 2023

Welcome to another post of The Blog, Visuals For My Vision, drawings I make inspired by the teachings of the Fabulous One Philosophy. In these drawings I explain the behaviors of the Fabulous One Fractal Selves, 4 characters I have created to show you what role they play in your mind. I call them fractal because they are a miniature versions of the whole.

Why is it important you learn about them?

Because if you want to silence your inner saboteur, you first need to understand how she operates, when she shows up and what she does when she is activated. Most of us are unaware of an inner saboteur.

Yes, you are familiar with the term inner critic, but that’s not deep enough. When I say inner critic, you might assume you are dealing with “negative thoughts” and if you can make them positive or stop thinking negative, you would feel better again.

I am here to tell you; we haven’t even scratched the surface and if you stay here on this level of consciousness, you will forever feel hunted by your negative thoughts because they simply won’t stop and you won’t understand why.

Before we start, let me share how I experienced motherhood and how I came up with the idea to write and create a philosophy for moms? You might wonder, isn’t a philosophy meant for all of us? Why is she so focused on moms?

Yes, the end result of all problems are the same. Suffering.

We all want suffering to end, but the reason is individual for every one of us.

When our friends try to give us advice, we don’t use it because we feel they are not in our shoes. “It’s not my way,” you say. But there is always a foundation of truth on a group scale. In quantum physics they speak of probabilities. Meaning that you can never predict what one person will do, but you can predict what a group of people will do. They share a common pattern, and the probability of the group behaving in the same manor is extremely high. If you would look at humanity from a bird's-eye view, you can see we are all part of a group. No matter what group it is, you usually fit within certain parameters. So that’s why if a group is suffering the same fate, we can create a solution that works for all who are part of that same group. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but this has been my observation.

In my time, as a stay at home mom, I have made many mom friends, and I have concluded that there is a general song being played among us. And because I am a natural extrovert, I easily become friends with women from all walks of life and I saw a pattern emerge. The single woman with a good job is more focused on finding a husband, the single mother is more focused on survival and taking care of her kids, the working married mom is busy juggling everything at the same time trying not to get overwhelmed and angry at her husband for not doing his part at home. The stay at home mom, like myself, finds herself bored with the mundane tasks of cooking, cleaning, and no adult interaction, losing connection with people who really get you and understand why you chose to stay at home. Next to that, having no financial control over your life and completely dependent on your husband, who you pretty much suspect is looking down upon you because you know he is on Facebook and Instagram, just like I am. He must know we live in the 21st century, right? It doesn't matter if it's true or not. When you think negative thoughts, your self-esteem and self-worth takes a hit, and you try your best to compensate by working harder, but nobody really sees what you do, and nobody really cares.

So, yes, even though we are different types of mothers, we suffer the same faith, and it boils down to, never, ever, feeling good enough. If we genuinely want to solve our problems, we need a solution for all our reasons. We need to reframe our problems, so the speak. Give it a new meaning. A solution that is above the problem. There is only one way to do that, our solution has to be philosophical.

Albert Einstein said: “You can’t solve a problem with the same level of thinking you have created it.”

I woke up because I became a mother. There is really no other way for me to explain it to you. I do believe that makes me uniquely qualified to help guide another mom through the spiritual awakening process. I have been there before and I will understand what she has to go through in order to complete this journey.

I was a successful model in United Arab Emirates, Dubai before becoming a stay at home mom. Making money was easy. I was never rich or famous, but I was content and happy with my lifestyle. Some would consider it luxurious but that completely depends with which lens you are judging me with. So, when I became a stay at home mom, all of that went away, my status, my financial independence, and my freedom to just move and go as I pleased. It was quite a drastic change, but the weird part was, I adapted without hesitation to my new life. And so, as I made new mommy friends when taking my daughter to play groups, I heard my friends speak about the same problems I was going through, only there was a big difference in the way they saw things and how I saw them. I was in complete surrender of my role, and some of them were in complete resistance. The differences in the same experience were clear. Sometimes I felt guilty because as soon as I spoke about my joy and happiness; I heard all the negativity about the same thing I was speaking joyously about.

I wondered; Why do I see things differently and how can I help them see what I see?

So, I received the label “my positive friend,” oh there she is “Mrs. Positive,” but I knew it had to be something deeper. I wasn’t just positive, but I had no words. I couldn’t explain it, and I was letting my friends down because I couldn’t help them. I didn’t know how.

So, many experiences during my time as a stay at home mom have led up to this moment where I am now. At the time, I was unconscious of it, but now I can tell you exactly what something meant back then in the past. That's the gift of vision, it comes once you connect to your Higher Self. In my determination to find a method or system to set myself free, I shut down the outside world and focused on my inner world.

In the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu wrote: Knowing ignorance is strength. Ignoring knowledge is sickness. If one is sick of sickness, then one is not sick. The sage is not sick because he is sick of sickness.

I looked at the women in my environment; I saw myself, and I thought, is this my daughter’s fate? Will she suffer her mind, like we, mothers do? I thought about my grandma and my own mom, ah yes, I remember, they suffer too. I thought of my siblings, oh they suffer too, I thought about my close friends some aren’t even moms, they suffer, too. Is this our fate?


What do we women pass on to each other? Where are the tools of empowerment, high self-esteem and inspired creativity?

It was as if a light turned on inside of me, and I had to figure it out. What I found was that we are not just one mind, we are four minds, and they all live their own life inside of you. That is enough to send you to the loony bin, lol. But the two biggest players are the divine masculine and divine feminine energy. They are energies, don’t confuse them with gender. They are both within man and woman. I call them the fabulous self and the frequency self. If you want to know why, I gave them these specific names, you can join my self-mastery school for moms for free and read the first fifty pages of my book. As well there are other fantastic extras I added in the school, please go check it out.

Eastern Philosophy calls them the dancer and the dance. They are the yin and yang of the conscious universe. To be more specific, yin is the feminine, frequency self, and yang is masculine, fabulous self. They unite as One. They are The All and One. The guardians of the forbidden city. Have you ever seen the Chinese foo dogs?

The foo dogs are a male and female lion, but the male lion holds the world in his paw and the female lion holds a young baby cub in her paws. It’s a magnificent symbol and what it means is that they are the guardians of the outer world and the inner world. They guard the door that connects the physical to the non-physical, but if we want to take it a little deeper. We can say they guard our heart. The heart is the connector between these two worlds. When these two unite as One the heart feels fully protected. You feel safe. Your soul will come out and play because we do not see her as a threat.

What most of us don’t know is that they are the personality of the soul. When the dancer and the dance unite as one; your soul is dancing. That is what I am trying to show you in this drawing. Your soul will guide your mind and body to heights of ecstasy by experiencing the world through the eyes of the mind of Source. I call the mind of Source as well the Divine Mother. But when the fabulous self and frequency self feel threatened by the world. They shut down and do not allow the soul to come out and play. You become disconnected from The Divine Mother. Something happens to us when we become mothers. Our body, frequency self, moves to a higher level of consciousness because she went from maiden to mother. It’s an increase in vibration, misunderstood by your fabulous self, your conscious mind. It’s the disconnect between the two that creates your suffering. The dancer and the dance stopped dancing together. The fabulous self isn’t happy with your new lifestyle and she will try to convince you to dance a new dance. This mom gig isn’t working. This is not it. There is something missing, and she makes you feel sad. But this time the body doesn’t play along because she loves her baby and she will never give her up. Your body doesn’t want to change her life. She loves her life exactly the way it is.

The war between mind and body has begun. One wants to walk in one direction, and the other wants to go a different route. Misalignment is your state of being. Suffering your day to day. The name of the game is alignment. Getting these two back up to speed with each other, again. Making them unite. You will feel whole again once the divine masculine energy and the divine feminine energy decide to become team players. This will only happen when they surrender and choose to love unconditionally. It all starts with self-love.



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