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How much inner work do you need to do? | When enough is enough | Self-Mastery School for Moms

Updated: Dec 14, 2023

A lot of people talk before they become, and that’s what makes me different.

I kept my mouth shut. I started my inner work 10 years ago, and I never stopped. I always kept a beginner's mind, eager to learn and reach higher levels of consciousness until, after seven years, I realized, "I am the seeker sought." I firmly believe that those who are healed can help, but the unhealed can not and will make things worse.

There are a lot of unhealed teachers out there who want to help because it helps them feel better about who they are. It makes them feel whole instead of "being whole." They flaunt their brokenness as a badge of honor, using it to connect with you because working with someone who understands your pain makes it so much easier. That’s only a half-truth.

Yes, I agree. It feels nice if someone has been through the same. Gives you more reason to believe them. The other side of this is that if the teacher isn’t healed, all they can do is repeat your pain over and over and over again. Since you are a student, you have no awareness of how much pain there is. This is where it becomes tricky. You are accessing the unconscious mind. A mind connected to Infinity.

How much pain?

How long do you think it takes to hit the bottom of a bottomless pit?

Those kinds of teachers will convince you that you are in so much pain. You have to dig deeper and dig up everything that has happened to you since you were born. And all of a sudden, you start remembering things your mind has repressed and bring them to the surface.

Only the one who is healed can lead you toward wholeness. The call came in 2010 when I became a stay-at-home mom. That year I became 33 years old. Before my pregnancy, I was a successful model. I had a steady income and was happily married for 7 years. So, after 7 years, finding out that I was pregnant was divine timing. I was committed to becoming a mom, but becoming a SAHM was a paradigm shift. During my pregnancy, I was already making plans about how fast I would return to work, but when I saw my baby girl in the flesh, there was just nowhere else I would rather be than home with her. I have a very supportive husband who immediately made it clear that he would provide for and protect his family. And when my husband makes a promise to me, he has always kept his word. So, my time as a SAHM was just absolutely wonderful. My husband made sure I had whatever I needed to be the best mom I could be.

So there I was, just minding my own business, being a happy family, and in my me-time, I just started reading about self-discovery, soul, mind-body, and losing weight. 2 Years later, in 2012, I had my small awakening, and I decided to become a serious spiritual seeker. This was no coincidence because Dec 2012 was a very significant day when the collective consciousness was raised on Earth. Not to mention that my birthday is 12-12, and I became 35, which is as well a significant number in becoming enlightened. So for me, my story is clear, who I am today, was not an accident. My soul made sure I ended up here.

My whole life, I’ve always listened to my inner guidance, but I felt heavily misunderstood by my environment. I was never able to explain why luck was always on my side and how I did what I did. I had many friends who always called me for advice, and my feedback felt like common sense until I became aware that I wasn’t common and that my sense came from a higher mind. That's what makes me different. I was already whole but wasn’t conscious of it.

I don’t come to you from a place of pain but unconditional love.

I might not have been through your pain, but I am somewhere you want to be at the place called unconditional love. Do you wish to reach that place?

If you believe in the concept of someone understanding your pain makes them qualified to lead you out of it. You should as well believe that someone who comes from unconditional love can show it to you.

I see a lot of teachers teaching from pain. I don’t see many teaching about unconditional love. That is the difference between dual and non-dual. Duality will teach from pain to pleasure, but non-dual teaches from pleasure to unconditional love. Only the non-dual teacher understands that pleasure is still a form of pain. When the false self created her morphic resonance field, a term coined by Rupert Sheldrake (more on that in other episodes), she made sure that pleasure was part of it too.

How can you keep people willing to stay in the matrix?

By giving them pleasure so they don’t wish to leave.

Duality is extrinsic motivation, and non-duality is intrinsic motivation.

Do you know how to tap into your intrinsic motivation?

Most of us don’t because it just takes a whole other level of thinking to reach this place. It takes the vibration of unconditional love. A frequency you can only reach when you give up your dual nature.

Are you ready to give up duality?


When your conscious mind and your subconscious mind become one. Or when the divine masculine energy and the divine feminine energy become one. Or when the left brain and the right brain become one. Choose your pick because the journey remains the same.

In this journey, mothers have a special advantage which is that their chances to unite the two as one are higher because motherhood opens the portal between the two. This is a unique opportunity to seek self-realization.

This is hard to explain without visualizing it for you, but if you watch my masterclass about the Fabulous One Fractal Selves. You will learn about the four selves that need to unite as one and what happens within your soul, mind, and body to keep you veiled from your True Self.

I completed my spiritual awakening journey because I had such a strong foundation built on unconditional love. This allowed me to stand face to face with my inner saboteur/the fake self without flinching or backing down. I was able to show her love instead of rejection. No matter what she did, I wasn’t afraid, and I showed her the opposite of what she showed me. Until I realized who she was. She was me, the parts of me I had forgotten. When I fully remembered who I was, I completed my shadow integration. The fake self transformed into the fierce self!

How many people do you know who can give you a vivid account of what needs to be done to integrate your shadow fully? Wouldn’t you agree someone who wants to teach you wholeness would have to know how to do that? Would she have to be whole herself?

We need more teachers who can speak from a place of wholeness without polarizing. Cause that’s all they do right now—fueling you with anger and hate and calling it justice. Turning on our men, husband, brothers, and fathers because we think we are justified in calling out their blindness but are oblivious to our inability to see. Unconscious women are leading the masses off the cliff. That’s what’s happening right in front of us.

Are you going to allow yourself to be swept up by their energy?

When one building is on fire, the firefighters spray water on the surrounding buildings; otherwise, they might catch fire.

Are you protecting yourself?

You can overheat, you know, because all they want is to destroy. They're using your pain and inability to see clearly as a right to passage to the higher self. Of course, the soul is not going to fall for it. The Soul is not going to allow you through the portal. So, you can’t reach The Mind of Source because that's where you need to be if you wish to become unconditional love.

Time creates thoughts; it’s on a loop; you go from past to future, back to past, round, and round you go. Step out of time, stay in space, where thoughts have no existence, only pure presence, where stillness is the only sound that takes place.

First, you must remember, but ultimately you must know who you are. As long as you don’t, time will take you to many places, but not where you are. Time takes you out of the present moment. Only the present moment connects to eternity. You can stop time with your mind and unite your separate selves so they become The Higher Self.

I understand this might be abracadabra, but you long for this peace in your heart. You just can’t find it in your outside world. Therefore, you forgot. I am here to remind you that what you desire is within your reach. It’s just that you are not used to the way I speak. It doesn’t click, and you can’t connect the dots, but I know as long as I don’t stop one day, you will hear my call, and you’ll remember what you forgot.



The Master's Mental Model replaces your old framework and gives you a new one where you can veto the inner saboteur's input whenever she decides to show up and leave her two cents. In the Master's Program, you will learn how to detach from the collective group mind (6D)and restore the connection to your Soul Mind (5D). Once you've activated your soul realignment, you can call upon your inner soul's guidance without the interference of the shadow self. The Fabulous One Framework® is a new lens of perception that empowers you to believe in yourself and see a world full of possibilities. For more information please click the button to watch the explainer video.


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